Life has been hectic, classic opening lines for a blog created on opening the heart and sharing secrets, so that is why I haven't been writing. Of course, there are several reasons that is not entirely the truth because I believe that we manifest and create our lives day to day, moment to moment, habit to habit, and thought to thought. I've been on a emotional rollercoaster and I haven't made a commitment to slow down to reflect...so here it goes: I want to talk about anger.
Anger isn't brought on by the beautiful blue skies or the color of freshly bloomed roses. In fact, anger can strike anywhere for any reason. Recently, my anger has been fueled in my life by my husband and immediate family members. The issues are always the same, I feel wrongly accused of something, which in turn makes me angry. Isn't that always the case for anger? There is some sort of a lack of respect, lovelessness, carelessness, failure to commit, injustice, and oh and how the list can go on.
In my case, I am repeatedly being pressed beyond the boundaries of my angry zone, almost hitting a Warp Speed 10. It's like I've stopped being able to understand how to deal with the pure anger and resentment that brews inside of me. I found a few great articles to help out, which might just help you, too.
First...Are you Screaming on the Inside? Take this quiz at Oprah's website to find out.
Second....Martha Beck wrote a great article about Rage and Anger. She identifies rage as being something that we have collected inside ourselves since childhood. She also has a few helpful suggestions, like writing down and journaling rage, as a means to connecting to the deeper issues.
Lastly, I suggest having reading at Whole Living Dr. Gaudet's means of Getting Mad Effectively.
Anger is a tool for making healthy change. Although at a certain point, when you can't change the situation, you have to change yourself. Sometimes you need to just exit the situation and move on. In the case of my family, I don't have that option. Instead, I wait for the heat of the anger to diminish and then when the moment is right, I communicate what had been troubling me. It's a small step in learning to live a better life, rather than an angry one.
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