Tuesday, January 31, 2006

January Hero: STYLE WORKS

Who has ever believed that style was unaffordable or for the jet-set alone? Not moi! One of the motivating factors that led me toward interior design was that I had the desire to make design accessible at every income bracket. Beautiful streets, well designed homes, and lovely wardrobes should be accessible to everyone. Without heading into current economic theory (as every brunette would love to do), I wanted to highlight the efforts of a unique set of individuals in Brooklyn, NYC that has made style a thing for all.



Since 1999, StyleWorks has been working with individuals that are making that challenging transition from welfare to the work force. Style is the muse of self-expression and self-worth. In order to make clients less intimidated by the corporate work world, an initial appointment consultation is set-up to discuss hair & skin, style overview, and interview etiquette. The second appointment is set at the salon which has been generously donated by the salon. All hair, make-up, and style services rendered to the client are also donated services given to styleworks. After all the waxing, preening, cutting, and make-up applications, clients leave with a goodie bag of products donated by sponsors like Clariol Herbal Essences, Black Opal, Calvin Klein, Kenneth Cole, and PEN American Center (some of these corporate sponsors donate goods, products, or services for a minimum of 6 months). C'est tres wonderful! Afterward the client is eligible to join a mentoring program or a book club (love it!). I'm one brunette that can recognize the absolute worth of this charity! What a wondrous program that should inspire stylists and fashionistas across the country. Once people can get over that "exclusiveness" of fashion and recognize the humanity under the threads, our world might just be a healthier and happy place.

Check out styleworks @ STYLE WORKS

Their website even includes hair & make-up tips, tension & stress buster, and information concerning the book of the month! I'm truly in heaven when I think about all the awesome stuff this organization has got going! When is this organization going national?! I guess its just one hair cut at a time.

Thursday, January 26, 2006

Down with work, Up with Love




A dizzy morning of organizing my book shelves. Though, exactly why I'm wasting my time organizing my magazines, catalogs, and interior design books is beyond me. I certainly wasting time and putting off the real work that is ahead of me. Namely, I am fifty something pages away from finishing my newest novel. Yep, I don't believe that I've mentioned the fact that I have a personal passion for fiction. But, this morning I think I need a wee-bit of caffeine in order to get the passion kick started. If my book gets published, I've promised myself to return back to the above pen shop in Florence to pick a new pen for the new book. Of course, I'll be back at Cafe Pitti across from Boboli Gardens to get one very special cappacino made for me again!

This could all be the result of drinking microbrew beer (which I never do-I love a great martini) and a date that well..went sour at the end. I met Mr. Golf two weeks ago at a bar in Dana Point. I thought he was a bit blitzed but kind of attractive and perhaps even intelligent. As it turned out last night, we was a combination of all those things. In fact, I even liked him. It seems like things are on the up for Miss Brunette (even though he called me a blonde-I'll forgive him). We meet at red robin inspired restaurant called BJ Brewery. My first taste of the the chain-restaurant ambiance in Irvine. He was a kinda of quiet talker that spoke in spurts of conversation. He loves jazz and alfred hitchcock movies! Some of my favorite things. So what exactly went wrong? This one is a biggie... At the end of the evening, we had come to that awkward point of having to part paths. He put his arms out for a big hug and leaned in for the big kiss. I had no means of thinking, as it should be, and I turned my head and gave him a cheek hug! Whoops, dude, I'm just not that in to you. I laughed afterward because I was embarrassed but who wants to be smacking it up in the front of BJ's brewery? Ah, but, everyone knows a fool in love. I thought I had been attracted to him but when it came right down to it, I had wasn't. That's why one should date. As I said that I looked forward to playing tennis with him, I swung off the possibility of ever getting involved with him. A girl needs a lover and a friend in the boys she that picks. Or at least, a lover!

Yet, all is not lost, I have met someone that is a real possibility but I'd rather not go into that one yet. Suffice it to say that he a beautiful guy that I know I'm definitely spice & chocolate over. And we kissed only hours after meeting in the middle of a crowded dance floor playing hard rap music! Nothing is ever sensible with love.

Brunette Confidential # 3: When it's hot, it just rocks!


So what about this book? I have only a couple of hours left to write until I have to hit the job that is paying my bills. At least my hands are warmed up-yes, I've written my book by hand-and I'm going to head out for a coffee. Perhaps I should have titled this quick blog entry as Down with Love and Up with Work. I'll get things right one of these days.

Tuesday, January 24, 2006

Room or Board

As the holiday for lovers awaits all of us in the near future (see your calendar date: February 14), I've been hearing many of my attached ladies bring up some important smack: To Room or to board. What exactly do I mean? What is that single Brunette that is waiting for her hot bubbly bath talking about? I'm talking about living with your boy. I'm talking about girls that feel that something in the relationship may just move forward if they shake or nod their head in one direction or the other.

Perhaps all of this is coming out of the wood work at the same time time because for many February is still in the that bubbly start of the new year. For many that have been dating for the year or two years, or what ever your mark may be, then it may be a question that is in your near future.

Let's take a look at the few things that are involved:

1. Space planning


I had just graduate from the Art Institute of Chicago and I wasn't ready to return to the california. Unfortunate for my sake, my then boyfriend hadn't told his out-of-state parents when they made an unscheduled appearance the morning after I moved in. The kitchen had a palm tree and all of my clothes strung about on the table, chairs, and the stove. I had spent that night, lucky old me, in my old lofted-dorm apartment that looked down to Marshall Field's and was directly across from the wonderful Louis Sullivan facade on Carson Pirie Scott.

A side note to this story as it pop into my mind is that I where I lived was directly across from the Carson Pirie Scott bed department. I had ample time to watch young, new, and old couples kicking back on the model floor display. I also watched the single ladies and men roam in a more absent way through the same department. Of course, there were many times I realized that they were watching me back and I had to hit the deck and crawl to my bathrobe. But, that's another story.
I had borrowed my boyrfriend's apartment key when I walked in and saw his parents standing in the kitchen who knew better than that there son had started to wear pink undies. Yep, slightly embarassed. But, planning room in any situation can be strained and it has to be done.

Once his parents left, I realized that his Cost Plus Havana style couch was going to stay. And it being made of bamboo and a few too many years old made it an eye sore. I had told myself as a young girl that I would never cross that line of being unmarried and living with a guy. Yet, I also realized that my prince charming wasn't going to defeat an evil army to steal me away from my locked castle room nor did I think that I would marry Mr. Right as a virgin. Some childhood dreams crash and burn with age. Okay, what was I talking about? Oh yeah, if you move in with a guy, you are going to make some sacrifices.

2. Sort the Bills


I knew an old grumpy photographer in Chicago that had a partner. I had thought he was gay for like four months until I met his partner that was a women. They had been living together for over seven years which I believes means that the couple is automatically married (Common law marriage is the quiant term I think, I'm not going to look this one up because I want to take my bath). That's beside the point or maybe he was grumpy for other reasons. For instance, I learned that he had never bought his partner a meal. He had split the cost in half ever since they dated. Strange in my book? I love to buy people drinks and meals. I love it even more when I have my loved one buy me lattes and chocolate! I couldn't imagine the strain of a living realtionship being cut so severe;y down the middle. Couples have to set up their financial agreement before moving into the same place. This can led to disagreements or unhappiness and cause relationship strain until a settlement occurs. This is one of the least romantic moments in the whole process of moving in together. Later in my working relationship with this photographer, I had other friends that were close to him explain to me how taxing the whole arrangement was for him and his partner. I was told that he was always bitter about some portion of a bill that his partner hadn't paid. I think the other lesson is: Don't move in with a cheap-o.

3. Romance



Baby, we all want some afterglow! We're loving each other like we do in order to find a slice of peace and heaven under the oak tree. Oh and romance. I've dated relationship phobics (why? don't ask me? just too darn good looking to stay away!) who had constantly recited to me something along these lines: Take a jar and put a penny for each time the afterglow is in effect for the first year of marriage. As the saying goes, all the pennies in the jar at the end of the year will be the amount of loves sessions left for the entire marriage. I didn't date him for long. But, keeping the love motion exciting is a dilema. The only boy that I did live with ended up in complete afterglow melt-down.

OVERALL
A short conclusion. Don't do it. Okay. Maybe you wondering how such a level-headed blog entry got to this conclusion. Like I said, I have a bath to take & it just doesn't work. If you're considering to room alone or board with your boy, this brunette says keep your room. Virigina Woolf will side with me.

Thursday, January 19, 2006

Bravo!

If you're like most commuters in Orange County, then the freeway traffic gets tiresome. Maybe you got dinner via your favorite drive-thru, and damn, you're home with only few hours before its time to sleep. What's a brunette got to do have some fun? How about rip some lace, wear a Venetian-styled mask, or let your stomach hang out?! Bravo! Have fun indeed at somebody else's expense. Project Runway has set the stage for creative drama. Don't think I'm just an Orange County Blogger typing about reality TV shows (okay, sometimes it seems that way!) but, I've graduated from the best art institute in the country & these tiny episodes kinda of scratch up those old competitive memories.



So, No, darling, this Brunette isn't loosing her edge, I'm sharpening my shears! I might not be able to cut a flawless pattern, tailor a sleeve, or embellish a suit with roses but, I can get inspired to be fashion forward. And that's what a brunette really wants...to undercut the competition!

PS If season two is happening for you, then click here to place a bid in the auctions for the designs seen on TV. Whoa...Does that dress come with that little red "Made for TV" box? I don't know but hand's off Zulema Ice Skating costume. It's mine!

Monday, January 16, 2006

January's Most Wanted List



If over indulgence during the holidays has left you feeling guilty, then don't fret. You can keep the indulgences up without the risk.

1. My Milkshakes are Better than Yours


Aquolina Milkshake

Shake it up in an hot Italian style bath by Aquolina. The scent only will make you wish that calories were a thing of the past. The hydrolyzed milk proteins that will richly hydrate your January skin will make you the tasty sweet. 5 bucks at Sephora.

2. Retreat
Is it already too early in the year to want to escape? Not if the winter blues have got you wishing you were anywhere else. Of course, you can always just take a web visit and join the Chic Retreat Club to be inspired for the year!


Chic Retreats


3. Turn the Heat Up

Ladies, you don't have a man to buy these sexy little shorts! No! You can just visit the UK figleaves website and dream about the hotties waiting to meet you. Gentleman, these shorts will turn the heat up!
Figleaves


4. Help Your Soul

Got issues? Want to change your life? Need a mental boost?

Oprah's, O magazine, had spent an entire issue on helping lost souls find the path to making things happen. There is no reason to have a glum year. So go ahead, get happy, for about the cost of a coffee.
O Magazine


5. Make it

Do something with those talents! Make a sculpture, shoot a film, or practice your viola. January is the best month to practice to make perfect. Get inspired by watching a movie or visiting a movie. The world is limitless if you only understand it to be that way.


Hammer museum, LA

Sunday, January 15, 2006

A Killer New Beginning

Leaving Orange County via freeway, I found the start of my year headed on a lonesome highway to a beautiful remote farm community on the flip-side of Palm Springs. Like most things beautiful and wild in California, developers know where people want to live. Farms were quickly being bought and developed. I had trouble finding the location of the new model home tract. But, I made it.




I spent the first week working from 7:45AM to 10:30PM without a ten or fifteen minute break, food and water was what I managed to sneak into the construction site. This brunette was in the mood to kill.






Most of the work consisted in managing the moving company by placing all the furniture, lighting, and accessories into four models homes. My project manager, which had me selecting furniture (her job) and ordering the furniture (my job) from the first week of working with the company, became a monster. It was tragic to watch my project manager enjoy the crass power of mistreating people. Every piece of furniture that was built or placed was always the fault of the moving company. Her attitude was something I had grown acquainted with over the months. Yet, when I had a member associated with the project install that was outside of the company ask me why my project manager treated me so debasing and rudely, I had several loose elements of thoughts clicked into place. But there were a few perks when my project manager forgot about the tasks she assigned to me.



Determined to stay at a safe hotel, the firm had bought hotel rooms at the South Coast Winery in Temecula. Since they weren't giving us breaks or even a proper thirty minutes to lunch, I felt it was fabulous staying in villas that were sprinkled throughout wine country. Not that any of the girls were enjoying it.



On Wednesday evening, I was exhausted. It was 10:45PM and we had yet another day of illegal work hours. I was exhausted. The project manager went to use the restroom and I asked the rest of the team when we might be wrapping up. My room mate back at the hotel, who happens to be 20 weeks pregnant, perked up at the idea leaving. She made the suggestion that she would ask the project manager when she returned. The project manager returned back to the model home kitchen and pulled another Bud Light from the 24 case. Her nose was red and rosy like a holiday lush. My room mate politely asked "What time we were expecting to wrap up?" The project manager flipped the beer can open and said, "When we're done."

I have the bad habit of falling asleep when I drive too late and I felt it wasn't appropriate for me to take the chance of crashing the company van. Since it was still a thirty minute drive on a dark two-lane highway, I told her that I wouldn't be able to continue working for the evening. Oh, the disgruntle and sour faces from all of team members. But, hey, since the owner of the company told me that I was "getting paid as a professional and salaried creative employee at a non-living wage" I knew that meant that I wasn't getting paid over time. I was back at the hotel by 11:30PM. I took a bath and I went to sleep.

The remaining team mates returned back to the hotel by 1:30AM.

The alarm buzzed at 7:00AM the next morning.

The passive-aggressive nature of the business was already in effect. As a subtle means of further pushing me outside of the group, I was told to sit in the hotel room and wait for a package to arrive. I asked twice for information concerning the parcel like who was sending the package and what were its contents, but I was told to just wait. A brunette always like a little mystery even if its before breakfast. Next on my agenda was, of course, breakfast. She told me to eat before returning to the construction site. Hmmm...My exile-esque punishment sounded too good to be true. I pulled the drapes back and it revealed double French doors and patio furniture. A good girl always enjoys a bit of punishment! South Coast Winery is akin to a five star hotel! You couldn't keep the grin off this Brunette.



Let's make a long story short.

I had the hotel forward any calls to my cell phone. Outside the villas, there were several hot air balloons over the vineyards that were so low that you could almost touch their wicker baskets and lift into the sky. The morning sunshine was preparing for eighty degree weather. I took breakfast at the lodge, received impeccable service, and leafed through Travel Savvy Magazine while staring at Villas in the vineyard. On returning to the hotel without a single interruption, I changed into my bathing suit and lounged in the patio furniture and watched the morning mist burn off in the distance. I spent the next three hours working on my novel and soaking up a tan. I didn't get a call until 11:30 to return back to the installation. As it turned out, the package had been delivered to the hotel at 7:00AM but to a different office. Sometimes, life does you little favors.







I spent the rest of the week working hard and diligently like every day in which I work at the company. On the final days of the installation, I detested that everything that was ordered into these homes were promptly destroyed in order to prevent theft. I didn't enjoy working illegal and non-paid hours. I really was angry that the passive-aggressive nature of the company environment would allow a pregnant woman to work long and hard hours without rest, food, or water. Mostly everything about the company, wasn't inline with my values and my work ethics. I finished the work week.

Monday morning I handed in a four-page resignation letter.

My project manager had told me that my sweet and dear pregnant room mate/colleague had worked herself to the point of being bruised and swollen and it hadn't helped her situation that she was already carrying her child in a low position. She was at the doctor while I was packing my things.

Darling, if I can communicate anything, its this: Create your Dreams. I thought back to the vineyards of Temecula. I could remember in my childhood listening to neighbors talk about the ambitious vineyards outside of Riverside. The idea of vineyards in Inland Empire never seemed as poetic as a drive up the coast to Napa. I watched the adults scoff at the concept and laugh at their endeavors. But, as I had walked through the scraggly thin vines of this emerging vineyard, I came across a cluster of delicate and petite green grapes. The urge of life and growth was in the soil and it was seeping into me. The vineyards are an attestment in faith. A bird I had never seen before with a bright yellow chest flew to a nearby fence. Birds never question the future. They work hard to prevent hunger and the deal with the environment. I had not spent my first adult years to work at environment such as this. That single morning supplied countless ideas and dreams that I intend to create.

I took my things at lunch and I left the interior design firm. Most of the people at the company had told me that they were extremely disappointed I had chosen to leave.

But, they are more beautiful horizons to journey forth and see.

Wednesday, January 11, 2006

The road was longer than I thought



New Post Coming Soon!

Monday, January 02, 2006

Meet my Alias*



A Brunette could never pass for a Blond. Due to unforeseen events, my next post will be Saturday January 7, 2005. What I can tell you... Where I'm going there ain't computers or cell phones. It's just you against them. And it's me everytime.

Upcoming reports: Ankle weights or Yellow Banana Peels....Stay Tuned~!

*Footnote: No, I'm not going as Lisa Gastineau to negotiate against Donald Trump. This crowd is tougher.

Sunday, January 01, 2006

Negotiation in 2006

Yes, Happy New Year's and now let's get down to business! Before I become pacified in watching movies and more reality TV shows, I've been stumbling around understanding a crucial element that has been missing in my life. The Art of negotiation and I'd like to thank Lisa Gastineau for having clued me in.


Here's my negotiation story:

My current freelance client (see entry My First Freelance Interior Design Client) negotiation process went like this:

"So, we should talk about your service rate before we get started on this project." said my client and friend.
I replied, "I'm really excited about designing your home for your family and the second child that's on the way. So, let's make this easy. I'll just ask that you make a donation based on the work that I provide."
"Okay, great." I said
No contract. No negotiation. Who really likes to talk money when there is a creative project to be had. I told myself that it'll look great on my resume.

Thus far I have spent my evenings and weekends since November 27, 2005 completing their interior design project. This includes:

  • Spending over 2 hours creating a measurement list of their house
  • Creating the house blueprint
  • Meeting with the family and consulting them on space usage and the furniture lay-out
  • Selecting the house color and style scheme
  • Selecting fabrics
  • Sent a 41-page Powerpoint presentation on all of the furniture, wall paint swatches, color schemes, fabric and sewing selections for their house
  • Field trip to a local Model Home/Loft tour to help generate ideas on how there would my concepts would be implemented
  • Gave a complete list of resources on where to purchase all furniture pieces because I'm not a wholesale/retail dealer
  • Provide them with a list of contractors, master craftsmen, and handymen to work on their house
  • Updated emails with furniture, drapery, and accessories information


As it turned out I did see Mrs. Client on New Year's Eve. Recently, I had sent two emails to Mr. & Mrs. Client without a response and naturally I was wondering what was happening with their home and the project. It turns out that they have just paid $20,000 for new custom windows and that they had been working quite madly at their jobs through the holiday season. Politely, I told them that I had more resources on drapery treatments, a console table, and ottomans. She was completely excited and told me to send an email tonight.

"Well, not tonight but tomorrow. It is New Year's!" she said.
We both laughed.
"Oh and my friend has a house painter that we're using. How should we paint the family room again?"
I gave her the details and that was the end of the house conversation.

After Christmas and New Year's passed without a snail-mail card or even a typical white paged email wishing me a happy holiday season &, oh yeah, thanks for your help so far. I got to thinking. Hmm...I don't think that they are going to give me a donation for all of the work that I've put into the project. So far, I haven't even received ten dollars for any aspect of my work. But I told myself, hey, it'll look great on my resume. At once, I started to feel a few things build and explode inside of me.

1. I didn't negotiate my wage with the current design firm. In fact, the owner of the company laughs everything she mentions the fact that I don't make a living wage. She has in fact told me that it's not her fault that everything is so expensive. Where does that leave me?

2. I didn't negotiate a contract with my first freelance interior design client. Who made that choice because it can be uncomfortable talking money? Me.

I take complete responsibility for where I am.


How does Lisa Gastineau fit in?

New Year's Day and I'm not exactly where I'd like to be. I suppose everybody has those mornings. I'm drinking my Tazo Earl Grey Tea (love it) and I'm watching The Gastineau Girls because the Rose Parade isn't on! I feel naked without the Rose parade on New Year's Day. Back to my point, Lisa is lounging on her bed inside her NYC penthouse and she's talking on the phone.

"No. I don't work for free! I'm not bartending! I won't bartend or make appearances or do anything for free."

Then she totally freaks out and screams that she's not working for free! Damn, we've got something in common!

I had put a foot in my lip-glossed mouth! Nobody wants to pay for anything. Everybody wants everything for free. A contract is a benefit because it doesn't strain friendships and it can actually increase the commitment to a creative project. When I was in my early twenties and working twenty-hour days in the film industry, I always got the same damn line! It'll look good on your resume. Therefore, since we are benefiting your career and taking a mild risk due to your lack of experience, we'd like you to donate your services aka work for free. I got to the point where I was getting completely booked to work for free. I didn't have gas to make it to locations. It was a hard lesson to learn the first time. Unfortunately, in the last six months, I forgot about the pains of my past. I took a job in which I possess more skills than the position requires and I'm not getting paid for it. I completely bumbled with my freelance interior design client. I've spent stressful and exhaustive hours to complete their project within their deadline. I understand now that I've been committed at a different level than my client. Get a contract so you don't end up like me watching Lisa Gastineau on New Year's day listening to her scream at somebody, "I'm not working for free!"

Dear, style agents, moral to the story, never get involved in a serious operation without a contract in which you get enough money to put lipstick in your purse!

Brunette Confidential Rule #2: Ask for What you Want & Get Paid!


One last tip: A book that has got more information on how to negotiate for what you want out of life. I have a copy of this book and love it!



Peace Style Agents and Happy New Year. Make Your Dreams Happen!